The seeds of the future
The sadness of a child will touch the heart. Within their small and vulnerable bodies lies the growing seed of their potential. Many times the person who should be nurturing and watering that seed, is the very person who stands on this holy ground without even realising that the little growth is being trodden into the ground. In many instances the harm done is so big; the child stays crippled in that area for life.
A while back a man in his late years came to ask for help with his breathing. He had been having trouble for a while which was relieved with the usual asthma medication. He was a well-built man, who used to be very active in sport until his breathing interfered with his running. “I don’t want to keep on increasing my medication” was his request. it was clear that this man was more tense and reserved than most people his age. When asking questions relating to family and personal matters, he faltered, saying, “I am a difficult person to live with. Most of the people in town know I can be rather rude and abrupt”. Yet, when he spoke of his grandchildren, the softness in his eyes and the tone of his voice told another story. His sense of responsibility to those close to him prevented him from being his playful self. This is a common defence which happens in people if the child in them had been betrayed or hurt. To try and be in control, they move into their parent adult role, becoming very reliable, protective people. The child in us also needs to feature when living life. This is where we find inspiration, spontaneity and fun. The child in us helps us to laugh at life and ourselves. In people, where the child aspect is dominant due to the presence of other people who are willing to play the part of the parent to them, this can cause untold frustration. They can change jobs constantly, spend the rent money buying a new outfit and most probably never be on time for anything. The suppressed child results in a perfectionist, someone who won’t allow themselves to make mistakes and who expect others to be the same. In both extremes, this can cause misery and confusion.
The man in front of me had a terrible childhood where he had to learn to fend for himself before he was 10 years old. In the absence of parents he became his own parent, burying his child, fun aspect. His grandchildren help him to access this hidden part of himself as he did not have to be their parent and he could relax around them. To what extent are we able to heal events in our past? This was the question to ask and ponder on. Homoeopathy is remarkable to assist with these processes. The Bach Flower remedies are even better suited to help with ingrained mental and emotional scarring.