It is not wrong to die
She behaved noticeably different the last two weeks. It was as if she was feeling something change within herself, causing her to move forward in her chair, holding her head in her hands. Asked “What is the matter?”, she would divert the attention from her by being abrupt. Three days ago, she was taken to the doctor to see to a complaint. She returned home, being restless and not herself. She and her daughter, who had been taking care of her for many years, had discussed the possibility of her going to hospital. She pleaded to be allowed to stay at home.
Early on Saturday morning, she asked for a cup of tea. Her daughter left her for a minute to put the kettle on, to return and find her mother has passed on. In spite of her age and the possibility of death being greater with an older person, it came as a huge shock. Can dying be so easy? The one minute here, the next minute gone?
This is most probably one of the most difficult transitions for the human mind to make. From the world of matter to the world of spirit. For the greater part of our human experience, the world of matter and material manifestation is where all our attention and energy goes. We spend an entire lifetime accumulating assets, only to find that after all the effort there are no banks in heaven! You cannot even take a toothbrush with you when you pass from this world to the next. The mind pulls out all the stops to convince you that dying must be bad or wrong and somehow the allure of this mind reasoning traps many people into fearing death and the hereafter.
What is it that we react to when someone dies? This woman of 84 years affected many lives while she was alive in the material earth world, some more than others. The sudden withdrawal of her physical energy leaves a void. Until sufficient time has passed, for those who experience this void, to adjust to it or to fill the lack of her energy with their own, she will be experienced as gone. This is not true. She is in another form, different to the physical one which was known for many years. Life energy cannot be extinguished; it transforms. When the belief in life is limited to the physical, death is devastating. The opposite is also true, when death is known to be the final step in the learning earth experience, continuing after death as it also began at birth. It is a most liberating sharing of another’s life. The words we use to describe death are helpful in finding the clues to our own beliefs of dying. We will often say someone was killed by accident, which implies that it happened at the wrong time, and yet, many people who die sudden deaths will conclude business, write letters and clean their lives just prior to their dying. It is as if they knew. People dying from illness or old age exhibit similar behaviour, often requesting to see someone they need to make peace with by offering forgiveness, or by asking to be forgiven. It is as if they knew.